So I took to heart your words of advice about the nerves causing the problems with our rides. So yesterday, I didn't have alot of time to ride as it was getting dark but I was ok with it. I conciously thought "I am just going to go have a relaxing, enjoyable ride". Even if I have problem and he isn't cooperating then I will do something else. Something that he wants to do. Not really worry about: fitness, roundness, dressage tests, moving off my aides, my hands being too low, my leg being to far forward and so on... No wonder I was a bundle of nerves and passing all those nerves onto my unsuspecting horse.
That brings us to today! Yes it was that good! I decided to go as far as we could go with positive progress. I also think I had a BIG break through with my little brain. Now it seems so obvious but I didn't realize what I was doing until today. I jump on and immediately ask for supple, round. bendy dressage pony. Ummmm yeah I am sure you can all see why our work was not going well. I realized that after he has ample time to warm up his SO willing to be and do all of those things I was wanting. MAN I love this horse! He teaches me how to be a good rider and horse owner. I am glad he is so patient. So today is the best ride I have had at least since last fall and possibly to date.